Friday, October 12, 2007

These Two


These two are as opposite as can be, yet the same much of the time. They love to play right next to each other, but fuss and yell because they just can't share diplomatically. They kiss, hug, snuggle and pat one another. They also pinch, bite, hit, kick and torment.

I am in awe of the relationship that is developing between my son and daughter. They are each other's best playmate, yet they often need breaks of complete separation.

As they get older, they become more alike and have more in common. One and a half and three and a half are much closer than infant and two. Or even just one and three. I am amazed, tearing up, watching them every day. And also tearing my hair out.

How can two little people look so much like each other and so much like each of their parents, yet be so much of their own different, distinct, and individual selves?

Before Sarah was born I wondered how I could ever love another person like I love Jack. And then came this equal and opposite little person who just plopped herself right here in the middle of our family. She is sass and attitude and a woman of conviction. And Jack is soft, and sweet and shy. But yet, they have something so special in each other. Being their mom gives me such unique perspective into the intimacies of their relationship, as they develop into friends.

5 comments:

Christina said...

So beautifully and tenderly expressed. At times I am perfectly content with my one little girl...but then I read things like this, about the special bond between siblings, and I start longing for another little one...

Anonymous said...

1) They are so cute!
2) I love sibling stuff! You know what's super-cute? A six-year-old holding a newborn. Awwwwwwwww.

Liz said...

They really do look a lot alike! My two girls don't even look like they are related!

Cari said...

They are SO cute. Her pigtails? Priceless.

There is something so special about watching those sibling bonds form. It's one of my favorite parts of being a mom...

Arizaphale said...

Ah you underline my sadness at not having two. Nevertheless I watch the relationships developing between the baby Angel and her step brothers and there is much joy (and heartache) to be seen there too.
Your words are beautifully written.
Your kids are just beautiful.